Because you can't give your life for someone else...

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Playing In The Background...
"Forever Is Over"
by The Saturdays
from the album "Wordshaker"
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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on October 29, 2009 at 09:08 PM
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After 80 years I'm back! (Well it's actually only been about a year and a half, but who's counting...) I'm video blogging again. Can ya believe it? I can't.

After being told by enough of you to get my ass back on YouTube I finally decided to just jump in and do it. And besides, I find that this is a better way to communicate with you all faster and verbally answer your advice letters and emails. Of course I'm gonna always write but I'm start throwing a few of these in the mix as well. To help me get back into the groove of things I have my special guest fellow blogger Jared Shuler along with me.

Please be advised that this video is a little, well, for lack of a better term... ghetto. Hey, I'm rusty at this, it's been a while but you know for the most part I believe in first run, no do overs.

So here ya go. Enjoy.

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"Fight For This Love"
by Cheryl Cole
from the album "3 Words"
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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on October 27, 2009 at 01:03 AM
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In my last blog post entitled "Re: When We Assume... We're Just Like Everyone Else..." I answered a letter from someone, who calls himself Waterfall, who was dating and had had sex with someone without that person telling them beforehand that they were HIV positive. I took an issue with that, not so much with the fact that the person didn't tell him but moreso with the fact that when he did finally reveal it to him he chose to do it via text message. I know, how classy? If you haven't already, before you go on I suggest that you read that blog post just to get yourself up to speed.

Probably moreso here there than with anything else I've written I put a lot of care into writing that blog post. I wanted to make sure that I didn't come off as self-righteous, arrogant, or condescending. although the HIV negative person, Waterfall had written to me I wanted to take both sides into account....

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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on September 26, 2009 at 02:55 PM
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Dear Adam,
I met a guy about three weeks ago. He is really cool older guy, we communicate well, we share the same hobbies, my future goals are ones that he's already accomplished, I had a good connection with him. So we had sex.

A couple of days ago, five days after we had sex, he sent me a text message saying that he had "something to tell me". I was worried, I figured that he was going to tell me that he had a boyfriend because the boy is fucking fine.

So I was in the mall just looking at my phone like 'come on boy just tell me you already got a man' but he hit me with "I'm HIV positive" I wanted to breakdown and cry in that mall, but I'm not one for causing a scene. We had protected anal and unprotected oral sex...

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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on August 29, 2009 at 08:30 PM
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Dear Adam,
I am new to your blog and I’ve really enjoyed digesting your thoughts. This is a question that has been burning my mind since I’ve been sexually active (~ 2 years) but I don’t have the balls to ask any of my top friends. So I digress to you, as an avid top, and your readership. Excuse me for being wordy: Whenever a guy tells me that he's "exclusively" a top, or bottom, I get indignant. I don't get verbally indignant; rather I let a subtle eye roll and subsequent disinterest in the conversation register my judgment. I consider myself versatile, freaky, and generally down to fuck. My preference honestly varies depending on the guy. I have had wonderful (and terrible) sexual experiences in both positions...

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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on August 22, 2009 at 11:08 AM
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I believe that everything and everybody comes into your life for a reason and a season, and that all things, good and bad have some type of purpose, however trivial or indiscernible, but a purpose nevertheless. That brings me to Steven. A while back I met a guy, lets call him Steven. Steven was my type, short, thin build, beautiful face and a ridiculous body, thin and toned, just like I like it, a pretty boy, sexy as hell. I met Steven out one day on a fluke, out somewhere where I didn't even plan to be and he was just there. We had a few drinks, we ended up talking, flirting, the attraction was definitely there. Then he began to talk about his boyfriend, how they were having problems and were about to break up. How his boyfriend was cheating and how as of late it'd become disrespectfully apparent...

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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on August 14, 2009 at 08:00 AM
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Okay, I know I'm really late on this as it was almost two weeks ago but I still wanna thank everyone who came out to my b-day party. We all had a great time and Lawd knows I was somebody drunk by the end of the night between all the shots of Cafe Patron and all the mojitos i was drinking.

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Posted by Adam Benjamin Irby on August 12, 2009 at 03:00 PM
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