con·tra·dic·tion
[kon-truh-dik-shuhn] –noun
3. a statement or proposition that contradicts or denies another... and is logically incongruous.
4. direct opposition between things compared; inconsistency.
Source: http://www.dictionary.com
Someone emailed me once and said that I contradict myself a lot on this blog. It was a hate email so along with that statement it was littered with a whole bunch of mean-spirited gibberish so I ignored it like all my other hate mail. Constructive criticism is cool, and may even be taken into consideration but name calling is ridiculous and the quickest way to get ignored. Today as I looked through some of my older posts I realized that the me now and the me a few months ago are different and contradict each other very much.
It's weird but "contradiction" in today's society is one of those buzz words that is automatically associated with something bad. And in the case of public figures such as politicians and policy makers who in making decisions regarding our lives we expect them to live up to the standard they set as well, the yes it is a bad thing. But contradiction isn't bad in itself.
Looking at the definition of contradiction you will see that it's not such a terrible thing. The prefix 'contra' is derived from Latin, meaning against. Other 'contra' words are contraband (something that's against the law to possess), contrast (comparison that shows the difference of one thing against another), and contrary (two things that are opposing or against one another). We understand that to contradict something is to be against it, that's not a horrible thing is it? The sin seen in contradiction is to be against something that you were once for, as though it's wrong for someone to change their mind. Change is the essence of life. You are changing as you read this, your cells are dying off and regenerating themselves. Change is the essence of growth. If you cease to change you'll die.
Browsing through some of my older posts I skimmed over some of the things I said, especially when I was in a relationship. It's diametrically opposed to a lot of the way I feel and the things I say now. I almost felt bad for second until I realized: 'Duh! Life and experiences are designed to make you look at things differently.' Of course after something like a relationship has ended your views are gonna change. Most of the things that we say, state, declare during the time we're in a relationship are conditional upon that relationship lasting forever. So once it's over there goes all of that. That's part of the reason why breakups are so dramatic in the first dayum place.
Total congruency in all word and deed like I stated before is something to be expected from a politician. Laws and policies governing the peoples of the world are constructed not to be subject to change, that is without legislative and democratic process. This is not the U.S. Supreme Court, or some international parliament house. In matters of the heart and of our personal choices we can't realistically be held to such rigid standards.
This is life and in life you probably aren't gonna feel the same way about everything forever. Remember when you were a child and how you never thought you'd stop playing with your toys, you don't play with them anymore now. Does that make you a hypocrite? Of course not, it makes you an adult, you grew out of it. Remember that guy you you used to love and told you'd be with forever, you guys broke up and you don't love him like that anymore. Are you terrible? No. Do your current actions contradict your prior statement, yes, and so what? That's life, change is constant in life. We are not cardboard, were humans and change is the essence of our humanity. So yes if you go back in time some of my posts do contradict themselves, and your point is...?
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Playing In The Background...
"I Remember"
by Keyshia Cole
from the album "Just Like You"
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PS: In life try your very best to never speak in absolutes. You never know what you may end up doing.
Word up!
Change is forever.