Someone who characterizes himself as "The Answer Man" left this in response to yesterday's blog post "Maybe It's Just Me...":
Dearheart,
It is possible you are projecting your needs onto them when they are merely being friendly. What you perceive as flirtation may simply be polite conversation in their mind.From reading your blog it does appear you see men in very distinct categories--"a piece", cuddle buddy, hook-up, etc. Is there no place in your easy compartmentalization of your relationships for someone who is just a friend? Or must everyone be either a potential fuck or a past fuck?
Instead of asking what's wrong with other men, you might take a look in the mirror.
-The Answer Man
Obviously from the sarcastic nature and the feminine tone in which "The Answer Man" addressed me we can all plainly see that this is a read, a respectful read, but a read nevertheless. Some queen who calls herself "The Answer Man" decided to come on my blog and read me. That's fine, I realize that in writing my blog I put myself out there. The kids are not always gonna agree and sometimes people will read me and that's okay. Shit, knock yourself out, be Levar Burton for all I care, make my blog the fucking "Reading Rainbow", I don't give a damn. I love it when people express themselves here, even when their opinions differ from mine. We're all entitled to our opinions and I respect that.
But what I don't respect is for someone to come here, try to read me and be too scared to even leave a proper email address. When you comment here only I see the email address you leave me. That information is not shared with the public. Many times people have commented here and I have personally emailed them thanking them for what they said or giving them further clarification if needed. Read me to your heart's content but if you can't stand behind your words there is no validity to your read. What I do have is this person's IP address and I see that they're from right here in New York. This person may even know me.
In response to you "The Answer Man" I say thanks for your opinion. I can't really take it into any serious consideration though as your cowardice has rendered it invalid. How am I to take advice that you can't even stand behind? Next time, don't read and run.
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Playing In The Background...
"Mile In My Shoes"
by Jennifer Lopez
from the album "Brave"
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But what I don't respect is for someone to come here, try to read me and be too scared to even leave a proper email address. When you comment here only I see the email address you leave me. That information is not shared with the public. Many times people have commented here and I have personally emailed them thanking them for what they said or giving them further clarification if needed. Read me to your heart's content but if you can't stand behind your words there is no validity to your read. What I do have is this person's IP address and I see that they're from right here in New York. This person may even know me.
In response to you "The Answer Man" I say thanks for your opinion. I can't really take it into any serious consideration though as your cowardice has rendered it invalid. How am I to take advice that you can't even stand behind? Next time, don't read and run.
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Playing In The Background...
"Mile In My Shoes"
by Jennifer Lopez
from the album "Brave"
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I don't think it's the email address your mad at, lol. He hit to close to home.
That's pitiful. If you're gonna read a blog, especially one that is personal like this one, then have respect. People always have to bring someone down, no matter what.
I got your back (:
And BTW, I am glad you got 'Brave' too. I love that album, as well as the song 'Brave'.
You're way above that comment, I don't even know why you're paying attention to it. It makes you look insecure. Like Joey tells me all the time, "Just go unbothered!"
Damn, I could feel the seething anger through the computer screen (lol). But, in all seriousness, take a breath. And, like T.I. says, "Be easy."
Ugh!! That poster was just being a real...DICK!!
;-)
that asshole... i had someone all up in my house for a month reading me like that... n he was more f***d up than i was....
seems like people like that come along just to work your last nerve...
then they bounnce n yr still angry...
when you figure out how to get this snake outtta your head, let me know....
my anger is prob. seething outta the screen just thinking about it...
thanks for sharing ... makes me know i'm not crazy...
i dunno man. I'm not so sure he was being shady. but then again I kind of have the tendency to be optimistic about a person's intent. Maybe he really was just tryna offer you some helpful advice. I mean oftentimes people do pick apart the actions of folk around them and don't question their own frame of perception.
I understand the point made in this post. I think in response to this guy you came off as very defensive and subsequently offensive towards him. Not trying to sound like a goody two shoes, but it is a better idea to get clarity on a person's intent before responding in anger.It's hard to respond appropriately and accurately when you are working off of presumed tone. that's the pitfall of internet communication. But even in that , I understand that The answer Man didn't leave a means of contacting him so it's hard to even reach out for clarity. Oh well.
Much love,
Omar Ramon