In Tuesday's blog post entitled "It's Not About What He Knows, It's About Who He Knows..." I said that:
"What's crazy is that in the largest city of the most powerful country in the world, with one of the largest black gay communities in the world that everybody knows everybody and the chances of you or your date having coincidental relationship or sexual overlap is damn near unavoidable."
Yes, as unavoidable as it is, that doesn't mean that I would never date someone who has friendship, relationship, or sexual history with a friend or and ex or a "frex" (a an ex who becomes a friend). Shit, if I took that stand, there'd be no one left to date. I'd have to move out of town and start over. What I do though is take greater consideration of my friend's, exes, or frexes feelings whenever the situation arises (as each individual processes that sort of thing differently) because I realize that dating this new person (who I may not even like next week) isn't necessarily worth causing friction in an already established friendship.
As far as I'm concerned I don't care if my friend dates my ex or vice-versa. An ex is an ex for a reason. Like Chaka Khan says "When it's over it's over. If it's done, oh baby it's done" (I will PayPal $1.25 to the first person who can tell me what song that lyric is from). Who am I to stand in the way of their blessing? Maybe they could be right for each other. You know how the saying goes, "one girl's trash..." It's all good with me as long as they handle things respectfully. I'm learning though that few people are as evolved as me in that regard so I've learned to tread lightly and in that case I decided not to tread at all.
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Playing In The Background...
"Love Machine"
by Girls Aloud
from the album "What Will The Neighbours Say"
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PS: Shade is shade only if it's rooted in truth. Shade that is not rooted in truth is like a tree with no branches. A tree with no branches gives no shade. **SNAP**
"Too Much Love"
Gimme my money Adam!!