Dammit, I'm Writing A Dictionary... aka The Story Of My Words, "Bottom Belts", "Social Bottoms" And "Social Tops" And Such...

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A "bottom belt"
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One of the coolest things about writing a blog, or a book, or an article, or any piece of literature and having people actually read it is that whoever the writer is, in this case, me, has the chance to inject some of my sentiments, ideas, and in this case, vernacular into the minds of my readers and have them love, hate, think on and even adopt some of it.

One of the coolest things to happen to me is when I went to a message board, totally unrelated to this blog, a music message board as a matter of fact and saw that one of the members had a quote in their signature. The quote was from me, from this blog post:

"Desperation is not about the lies he tells you, it's about the ones you tell yourself..."
-Adam Irby

It was so weird seeing my name, on that screen, my words quoted by someone I didn't even know and have never met. The fact that something I wrote, something I had to learn the HARD way could touch someone that much is amazing.

The "bottom belt" phenomenon:
On a lighter note, other less serious things I said have been quoted. On the fifth episode of my You Tube series I coined the term "bottom belt" and it has since become a burgeoning phenomenon. The term "bottom belt" came from an observation I made that most of the bottoms I know and bottom-ish looking people I don't know, tend to at times wear one of those leather, studded, dog collar looking belts, usually in white. While I realize that this is a generalization, some friends and I tested my theory one night, going up to a gay-looking gentleman on 14th Street, in Chelsea with that belt on and asking him if he was a bottom. He was. Now people come up to me all the time using the term.

The social top/social bottom phenomenon:
On the first appearance on my good friend Derrick L. Briggs video blog I brought up another term I coined. The "social bottom" and the "social top". This term came from our visit to the gym earlier that night. We were at the gym and there was this trainer there who was sexy as hell, he was straight. He was straight and top-sexy, meaning that if he were gay he'd most likely be a top, he gave that vibe. Even though, even if he were gay there was no way that he was climbing our backs, 'cuz you know that's not my thing, we still admired him. I actually can't even say that I was so much sexually attracted to him, but he was just fine and I enjoy the sight of fine men, even if I know that nothing would ever happen between us. That's when I said "we're acting like two bottoms right now." I went on to say that me and Derrick are like "social bottoms' in that we can act all "gay" with each other and be all "homo" and out with YouTube videos and blogs and shit and to anyone passing by they may think that we're bottoms but when it gets down to the nitty gritty we don't get down like that. I explained futher that on the other hand the "social top" is the exact opposite, very masculine acting and most people would assume that he's a top but when the lights go out "those Timbs go right up in the air" as Derrick added in the video. We discussed it later that night on camera and the rest is history.

This term was lovingly repeated by another blogger Tyreek James on his steamy new Stuff DL Men Like blog. I appreciate the love even though I'm not in support of the whole DL thing, but I guess everybody can't be "here, queer, and ready to fuck a bitch up who has something to motherfuckin' say about it", like me. He did a whole blog post about social tops and others have also hit me and Derrick up saying that they like the new terms.

Thanks for all the support everybody!

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Playing In The Background...
"These Words (I Love You, I Love You)"
by Natasha Bedingfield
from the album "Unwritten"
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