ADtv Episode #13 - "IN vs. OUT (Of The Closet)" aka Are You In Or Out Of The Closet? Adam's Web Log Poll #9

I think the "goal" should always be to live an authentic life (as they say in The Velvet Rage), where we bring our true selves to all aspects of our lives. That can be elusive.

I'm an old man who has been out almost as long as you've been alive Adam, but there are still folks I haven't gotten around to telling, largely because I haven't cared enough. Then there are new people I meet where I must evaluate the basis of our relationship before deciding if they need to know that much about me.

Life is a proces and coming out is a lifelong process.

Ok...You guys forgot my shoutout. LMAO!

I agree with Derrick...Its 2008! But, different people have different situations.

But, I wont even consider dating a guy if he come with that "DL" shit, or if he's not atleast "out" to the people he's close to.

;-)

Wow! This post was really interesting. I first came out to my parents when I was fifteen years old and I am now twenty-one. Coming from a very religious background, my parents really didn't know how to cope with my sexuality. My mother still loves me the same, but my father just wasn't having---at all!! After telling him about my feelings, which were suppressed from earlier years, he tried to have the spirit of homosexuality cast out of me. Sadly enough the approach to "healing" that was implemented was to no avail. Fast-forward and now I am a twenty-one year old man, and I am thankful that I came out when I did. I am in a place now where I truly love who I am. I refuse to be held bound or captive by my feelings when I know that I didn't ask for the feelings in the first place. Personally, I feel that you can't experience true freedom within yourself until you embrace the fact that your desires for the same sex are real feelings. From life thus far, I have gathered that there comes a time in everyone's life (gay or straight) in which a person has to evaluate what's truly important to them, and not what's important to the world. At the end of the day, you're the one that is living your life. Only the good Lord Jesus, and you have the answers. Anyone other than Jesus and yourself that utters misinformation is irrelevant. Live Life!

By the way,sex parties are a HELL NO, but this is just my opinion. People that do these nasty, disease-infested parties are messy(once again my opinion). I'm a Leo (July 31st), so I don't really like to share my mate with anyone...lol And I'm not a fan of orgies, especially not with the Queens of our society today (no malm)....lol

Anyway, tell Derrick that he best watch his back. He is the sexiest, chocolatiest thing I have seen in years.....lol If I was a little older and in NY I might take him up on a date....lol

I enjoy the blogs as well as ADTV. Please keep doing what you're doing. There are many people, including myself, that find this to be a gay therapeutic show....lol

P.S. I am officially a fan, especially of Derrick...lol

-Christopher
Greensboro,NC

Hey, you should've had an option that covers, "Kinda, I only told family and/or close friends".

Cause my mother and one aunt knows and some good friends but not anybody else.

I agree with Derek 100%, the earlier you come out the better. Its highly understandable that different people have different situations but in 2008, being gay really is a whole new world for someone who isn't really use to it. So the earlier one may come out, the sooner they'll experince what Derek said, the heartaches, the parental problems, etc etc will eventually come out a better person. It allows one to mature alot quicker as i have experienced and it'll prove to really help out one's character in the future.

As for the poll, me personally, i hate to lie so i'm not gonna tell someone i'm straight when i'm not so...if the question is arisen...it will just be avoided until i feel comfortable, but my close friends and close family members know.

And i adore Mariah <33 She's the best. Period.

Love, Peace, & Happiness =]
-NiC